tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4199093213229166970.post918174892986907304..comments2023-10-30T01:44:20.886-07:00Comments on Heebonics: Men and (New York) City: Part 2Heebonicshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05222943785689490347noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4199093213229166970.post-59254035968076166832009-01-02T09:16:00.000-08:002009-01-02T09:16:00.000-08:00Leeat,I find the people both men and women are muc...Leeat,<BR/><BR/>I find the people both men and women are much more in your face than here in Toronto. Thisis something that I really like being as I like to talk with strangers ands often times the folks in Toronto might find me a little too much. In New York I find I feel free to chat with anyone and not come off as "too much". Sounds like you had a great time and hopefully you will be back soon! :)<BR/><BR/>LindsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4199093213229166970.post-50753066788371280862009-01-02T06:46:00.000-08:002009-01-02T06:46:00.000-08:00Interesting observation, particularly since New Yo...Interesting observation, particularly since New Yorkers have the reputation of being cold and self absorbed. We are friendlier than people think. I don’t think it is just the way men operate, women are friendly as well. Perhaps it is because there are really not many New Yorkers that live in New York. There are so many transplants, people who had to make their way and develop new relationships when they moved here that they are more open to talking to strangers. As a die hard New Yorker I am glad that your experience was a good one and hope that you come back again soon!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4199093213229166970.post-1623415767509772352009-01-01T13:10:00.000-08:002009-01-01T13:10:00.000-08:00Much like Leeat, there was a period of a few years...Much like Leeat, there was a period of a few years in my life when I travelled frequently to NYC and I totally agree with Leeat! Whether I was single or in a relationship, I was always surprised by the forwardness or friendliness of men in NYC...I felt that NYC has a more raw feeling of sexiness in the air...if that makes any sense. I was approached by different men, in very different ways depending on whether they were construction workers or young businessmen in a trendy downtown bar. <BR/><BR/>Having lived in Toronto for a couple of years, I found the men to be slightly more conservative...less daring, with less spunk (though of course dont judge a book by its cover!). <BR/><BR/>Maybe its a combination of many different elements from climate to culture and a certain energy level that is found in different cities?!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4199093213229166970.post-24894353229181916542009-01-01T10:52:00.000-08:002009-01-01T10:52:00.000-08:00I would love to see your comparison of men in NY a...I would love to see your comparison of men in NY and TO in a second or third encounter. Do they come on strong and then does there interest wane?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08493708240678141136noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4199093213229166970.post-51605761191685540532009-01-01T09:53:00.000-08:002009-01-01T09:53:00.000-08:00I wonder if there is something else going on here ...I wonder if there is something else going on here as well... <BR/><BR/>When I travel, and I do so extensively, I become a more confident, happier me with a more engaging energy and exciting spirit. I know I wil never again see the people I pass on the street or meet in a restaurant, and I am comfortable being more outgoing and open knowing that. <BR/><BR/>I don't doubt that there is a difference between the people in New York and those in Toronto, just like there is a differnce between people from anywhere, but how we project ourselves in different cities - whether its home, holiday or a work scenario - may affect how people react to us as well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4199093213229166970.post-67947227177532314472009-01-01T09:03:00.000-08:002009-01-01T09:03:00.000-08:00Leeat, I wonder how different your experience woul...Leeat, <BR/>I wonder how different your experience would be if you were not as noticeably attractive as you are. Or perhaps, in the summer instead of the winter where we all are looking for your spirit-lifting smile. I am also thinking about the current political climate here in the city. People are losing everything yet, optimism seems to be high given the new President-elect. Additionally, it is Christmas time and I think people are just kinder. And then, there is the whole men-in-New-York thing which I think is accurate. They are present as a presence. If you keep your head down, I find I can easily avoid the contact but if my head is up and I look people in the eye, I meet an endless number of interesting and fun people. Yeah, there is the occassional unwanted contact, but generally speaking, I find the people of this city including men, to be welcome and friendly. But, I do always feel cautious when chatting with a stranger that I do so in public. I am conscious of an underlying fear of the stranger. Someone may be sweet initially, but who knows who they are in closer-quarters. I wonder if that is an unwarranted stereotype (one which I will never test out just in case the apprehension is deserved)<BR/><BR/>New York loves you Leeat, come back and brighter her and all of her inhabitants soon.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com